Make Me Laugh – Finding Humor in the Not So Funny

Did you ever notice that sometimes it is hard to find anything funny, especially when you are feeling down? With overwhelming daily routines and personal pressures, having a good ole’ belly laugh while feeling stressed out and bogged down is easier said then done, right?

Maybe not, psychologists now say that even one minute of forced laughter is as mood enhancing as real laughter. Since the body does not know the difference between genuine and pretend laughter it naturally releases endorphins, the stress reducing hormones that make you feel good.’ Similarly, the relatively new concept of Laughter (Hasya) Yoga started in India in 1995 by Dr. Madan Kataria focuses on the same premise that laughter can in fact be independent of humour and still have therapeutic benefits. By teaching the body certain breathing techniques, simple stretches and Ho Ho Ha Ha chants, students reap the undisputed health benefits that laughter provides, by reducing stress, boosting the immune system, relaxing muscle tension, lowering blood pressure and oxygenating the blood, just to name a few.’

Finding humour and laughter in difficult and stressful times is indeed challenging. However, laughter may be the best coping mechanism we have to get us through tough times. When my mom had terminal Cancer, she insisted there could not be any doom and gloom around her and so the very best medicine we could give her and ourselves was humour and laughter. In such a helpless, horrible situation there is only two things you can do, feel sorry and cry or enjoy your last moments together with laugher, the very best emotion there is. By finding humour in the most dreadful of situations you shift focus and bring about a much needed dose of normality, unite with those you care about, and feel a little better.

Here are a few tips to help you bring laughter to the surface during tough times.

-Find humour in all things. Recognize the absurdity or ridiculousness of situations and circumstances.

-Laugh at yourself. Be a little silly, over-exaggerate your simple mistakes, embellish a few of your shortcomings

-Be spontaneous. The element of surprise is priceless, improvise and act on the unexpected

-Do humour related activities. Watch funny movies, read a funny book or play a funny game

Finding humour in the least of funny of situations can be very empowering, it teaches us to shift perspective, relinquish negative energy, heal the ailing spirit, and connect with others. Make a conscious effort to bring more humour into your daily life and you will be more inclined to tap into your funny side when you need laughter most. Laughter is not just an expression of happiness but an essential value for personal development.

The Negative Side of Humor

Where there’s a positive side of things…there’s usually a negative side, and that applies to humor as well.

Unfortunately, the negative side of humor can be ugly…it can hurt feelings, and can be damaging and destructive! There are people in this world who will do almost anything for money. There are people in this world who will do almost anything for power. There are people in this world who will do almost anything for fame. And, there are people in this world who will do almost anything to get a laugh…and if they hurt somebody in the process…no apologies…business as usual!

In my view, this country is suffering from a big fat attitude problem that needs to be fixed! What are parents teaching their kids…to be corrupt? What happened to manners and respect? I haven’t seen a local news broadcast on television for years! Why? It’s the same old broken record…only the names change. The same old tired stories…who murdered who…who robbed who…another woman was raped, and there is more and more corruption…scandal, etc.

All of this gets old after a while. You have to wonder if there is any good news in America anymore! Yes, there is, but good news doesn’t sell newspapers, and the television ratings and newspapers won’t sell, if there is no bad news!

I think this society is turning more and more negative, and all that negativity rubs off on the children and grandchildren. There so much negativity in this society, that some of the people who are supposed to be leaders and model citizens in the community are being busted for one thing or another. Corruption; DWI; bad behavior in general.

How does humor fit into all this bad behavior? Put down of others…just to get a laugh! Ethnic jokes…just to get a laugh! Racial slurs…just to get a laugh! Dirty jokes…just to get a laugh! Teasing of others…just to get a laugh! Negative humor, like booze; prostitution; drugs will always be with us, and we all have to live with it, etc. Negative humor is another black eye for America!

A few years ago, was when we heard of the violence on a few high school campuses around the country. Students and others were shot and murdered on school grounds! There is no doubt in my mind, that some of this violence started, at least in part, because of teasing kids until they couldn’t take it anymore…JUST TO GET A LAUGH!

What are parents teaching their kids today? Have they ever heard of mutual-respect? If they’ve heard of it, do they teach mutual-respect to their kids? Many of us have been teased in school, I know I have. Being Hispanic, I remember I was teased because I didn’t speak or write the English well. Kids would make fun of me…JUST TO GET A LAUGH! It was so upsetting to me, that I didn’t want to go back to school! Everyone knows kids can be awful. I was always reluctant to give an oral book report for fear that the kids would laugh at me! I will always remember those awful days of ridicule and hate!

If you’ve ever been put down, by those who I refer to as “the jokesters and people of put-down,” who enjoy getting a laugh at somebody else’s expense, then you know how awful it can sting! I’m reminded of a comedian (so he calls himself), who goes around the country, putting down and making fun of the disabled and the challenged…JUST TO GET A LAUGH! This guy is the lowest of the low! What kind of humor is this? What kind of people would go to see this JERK, who finds laughing at challenged people amusing! This so-called comedian and his followers are what I call “the little minds of the world!” They’re warped…all of them, who would do something like this!

Where is this country headed when we allow this kind of thing, that is, making fun of the disabled and the mentally challenged? I know the issue of free speech in involved…and not much can be done about it! Will you allow your children to see this so-called comedian putting down the disabled and the challenged?

* I don’t see anything funny or amusing about a person who has suffered an illness; an accident and who will spend the rest of his or her life in a wheelchair.

* I don’t see anything funny or amusing about a person who was born with a deformity.

* I don’t see anything funny or amusing about a blind person who is struggling to cope.

* I don’t see anything funny or amusing about a person who has a speech impediment, hearing loss or severe burns!

Regrettably, humor can play a part in all this, because there the “little minds of the world,” that I spoke of earlier, who laugh at all this to get their kicks…UNTIL A TRAGEDY HAPPENS TO THEM! But, there IS a solution to all this, and it lies only with the parents. Parents have to teach their kids to respect others…teasing or the put-down of others is out of bounds! Two of the most important words in the world are, “mutual-respect,” and parents have to teach their kids to respect others, and to stay away from negative people, so they don’t become negative themselves.

Negative and dirty humor are NOT acceptable to me! A person doesn’t have to be dirty to be funny! Negative humor can sting, if you are on the receiving end of it! Many years ago, the senior President Bush declared, “What we need is a kinder, gentler nation!” What he was talking about, I believe, is what we are doing to each other as a People…and much of which is no laughing matter!

Humor Reflections About Women

For a long time authors, poets, entertainers and comedians tried to fathom the female mind but in vain. There are various reflections about the nature of women, many of which are really hilarious. Read on to find out.

Here they go:

· Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.

· A woman is like a tea bag. She only knows her strength when put in hot water.

· If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning.

· A woman knows how to keep quiet when she is in the right, whereas a man when he is in the right, will keep on talking.

· Being a woman is a terribly difficult task since it consists principally in dealing with men.

· Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily this is not difficult.

· There are only three things women need in life: food, water and compliments.

· Good girls go to heaven. Bad girls go everywhere.

· For men who think women’s place is in the kitchen, just remember, that’s where knives are kept.

· A woman’s mind is cleaner than a man’s. She changes it more often.

· Dear Girls, if a guy pauses a video game just to text you back, marry him.

· Never underestimate the power of an extremely pissed off woman.

· If women ruled the world, there would be no wars. Just a bunch of jealous countries not talking to each other.

· Remember, women always have the last word in an argument. Anything a man adds after, that is the beginning of a new argument.

· Cinderella is proof that a new pair of shoes can change your life.

· Only 2 things can change a woman’s mood: I) I love you II) 50% discount

· Women are like police, they can have all the evidence in the world but they still want a confession.

· You can break down a woman temporarily but a real woman will always pick up the pieces, rebuild herself and come back stronger than ever.

· Every woman is beautiful. It just takes the right man to see it.

· Women: Everybody loves them but nobody understands them.

· Most women set out to change a man and when they have changed him they do not like him.

Summing up, those are some of the humor thoughts about women that have surged up with time. I hope you enjoyed them and got some insights. There is no right or wrong – only thinking makes it so. Gotcha?